What sort of Ex-Smoker would you like to be?
Struggling, or Free, or Somewhere in between?
Ex-smokers come in all sorts of flavours.
At one end of the extreme are the ex-smokers who are still connected to their smoking world with ongoing struggles and regrets.
These are the ex-smokers who are miserable and missing their smokes every day. Not a day goes by when they don’t wish that they could still be smokers. If only it wasn’t so bad for their health. If only it was still ‘normal’ for everyone to smoke whenever and wherever they wanted like in the good old days. If it was, then they would keep smoking forever – because they love everything about being a smoker.
At the other end of the extreme are Ex-smokers who ‘Just Don’t Care’ about smoking anymore!
This group of ex-smokers seem to have moved on with their lives and aren’t attached to smoking anymore. They don’t care about smoking and don’t even miss it. And they are often amazed that they were so trapped and attached to it for so long. It seems life goes just fine without their smoking. In fact, life seems to go much better!
And then of course there are all the in-between flavors with varying degrees of persisting attachments to smoking.
These ex-smokers still experience varying degrees of feelings, struggles and temptations around ‘smoking’. They miss it at various times and with specific old favorite triggers. Could be that one special cigarette at the end of the meal, or when meeting up with a special friend.
So, what is the difference between these 2 extreme positions?
What is the same?
- Both groups have NO nicotine in their bodies
- Both groups have NO nicotine dependence. The brain’s reward centre resets back to its original settings a few weeks after cutting out all nicotine. No more nicotine dependence and so no more nicotine withdrawals anymore.
- Both groups will still have the habit program for lighting up a smoke, PLUS all the related trigger programs.
Please note that the brain writes actual programs for every single habit that gets established. Habit programs once written and established are PERMANENT. They are either in Active operation mode or in Stand-By mode.
What is different?
- The ex-smokers who don’t miss it will have lost the emotional attachments and bonds and beliefs they used to have relating to their smoking world. They simply don’t care about smoking. They don’t feel it would help them cope better, or relax better, or focus better. They don’t see themselves as ‘A Smoker’ anymore.
Ex-smokers who still miss it feel that have given up and lost something. They feel as though there is a hole in their life where smoking used to be.
- But the most important difference between these 2 groups is that the one extreme who don’t miss smoking at all – HAVE NO CRAVINGS.
And the other group that misses it – still experience persisting CRAVINGS to light up a smoke.
And the secret to this difference is that one group has managed to switch OFF the habit program.
You see, normal habits do not produce cravings!
You don’t get a craving to drive home a particular way, do you? The habit helps you to get there on autopilot, but without any compulsion or discomfort.
Only dependency type habits produce cravings.
Any habit that involves dependency and addiction will result in compulsive behaviour – and this is felt as the discomfort and urges of cravings.
Habit Program On – Craving ON.
Habit Program switched OFF – Craving OFF.
Now let’s look at the millions of ex-smokers who were able to do this.
To switch OFF their cravings and ‘Just Walk Away’ from smoking, no struggles, no regrets!
To go into this further, I am attaching a prior unpublished blog.
This will look more specifically at this ability to switch OFF the smoking habit.
And through doing this to also lose the CRAVINGS to smoke.
Quit smoking easily – countless millions already have!
Would you like to be able to decide to quit and say, ‘That’s it – I’m done with smoking’, and then be able to just walk away and never look back. No struggles. No regrets.
It seems countless millions of smokers have done just that. Find out HOW they did it, and you could do the same. GREAT IDEA!
One little problem with this. If you ask them (and I did this again and again for many years) you discover they usually can’t tell you HOW or WHY their final quit attempt was successful. Just that this last time was somehow simple and easy.
I spent years studying this so that I could work out HOW they did it. And once I did, I applied it to myself and found that after 30 years of struggle I was finally able to say for myself ‘That’s it – I’m done with smoking’, and I just quit and walked away. This last time was simple and easy. Difference is – that I understood HOW and WHY I was successful this time.
Let me briefly explain this further.
I have studied ex-smokers over the years and found that they seemed to divide into 2 groups.
The first group of ex-smokers –
The ones who finally decided ‘That’s it- I’m done with smoking’
and were suddenly able to move on and not look back.
Some life event prompted a shift in their brain. They were suddenly able to change the beliefs they had that smoking was a good thing in their lives. And they were suddenly also able to SWITCH OFF all the ‘light up a smoke’ programs and associated trigger programs. Bottom line is that a smoker has a Master Switch for the smoking program (yes, there is one!), and they had managed to locate this and switch it off PERMANENTLY.
They were no longer involved with internal struggles against smoking.
They simply left their old smoking world behind and moved into a new smoke-free life.
The second group of ex-smokers –
The ones who quit, but years later were still missing their smokes and feeling like they had lost something, rather than gained something.
I have lost count of the number of times I have listened to long-term ex-smokers complain about how they would ‘kill’ for a smoke, and how not a day went by where they didn’t miss smoking and were missing ‘their old friend’.
They still had cravings to light up a smoke. Emotionally, they felt that there was a gap in their lives that smoking used to fill. They understood that it was good for their health to quit, but still felt that they were giving up something they enjoyed and missed.
This group had never properly resolved their emotional ties or switched off their habit programs. They remained, to varying degrees, non-smoking smokers, and the Master Switch for their smoking program was to varying degrees still active.
During my smoking life I had managed to quit the second way several times. I would quit and then end up sitting on my hands, fighting the urge to light up again, until of course I would give in and start up all over again.
Quitting for the last time ever! Once I finally understood the difference between these 2 groups, I was able to see and understand and control all the forces of my smoking addiction, and then to quit- easily and permanently.
AND SO CAN YOU!